Lately I have been thinking a lot and i mean A LOT about timing. In many different areas, and have been wanting to write a post about it kind of in hopes for people to respond. whether people do or dont thats ok, I also just felt like writing it down. I will try to explain this as easy as possible.
Why is it that people have such
strong opinions on the timing of things. here are the examples I am talking about.
1. say you are getting married before 21 what makes it right for a person to be rude about the fact the you are doing so and saying that you are " toooooo young" .. some people by 20 have experienced more than someone has in their whole lifetime or even experienced more than a person who is 30. why are they too young? If you are in love and know you want to spend forever with them why would you wait 3 years so you can be the " not tooo young, and appropriate age to the people public eye" .. it just doesnt make sense to me i guess because your still going to experience all the things you will in the next 3 years with that person, so why not be married anyway your experience is that much better, and you grow even closer as a couple.
2. why dont you have a kid yet you've been married for a bit now? Seriously ok I get it kind of. However you dont know the peoples situation they could be having infertility issues, or they just arent simply ready, or who knows their situation.
3. soo your baby is now 1 when are you going to start trying for number 2. This one i find to be thinking a lot about. I think more particularly about the following. If someone has kids that are under about 18 months apart there is it seems automatically a public view of wow they arent messing around, there just having their kids bam bam bam... I mean so what, what people think but why does this happen. if people want their kids 12-18 months a part then so be it. But also it could also be a
accident surprise to them that, that is what they will be taking on for the age gap between their kids. But then its like if the kids are spread out more than 3 years people jump to say thats TOOO far apart. As a new mom i guess i get mind boggled over it. I think if i were to be pregnant NOW i wouldn't want to tell people exactly because itd kind of be a surprise I would be excited of course but nervous since my kids would be 17 months a part. I also obviously would just be restless about what people are saying about the matter, which is stupid of me because i should NOT care what people think which i dont but it still crosses my mind haha o well. and no i am not right now for the record
ANYWAYS those are about it for timing thoughts lol. it felt good to write it down and get it out there.. thank you if you chose to read this nonsense